A few days ago, I read a very wise quote by Mark Victor Hansen:
“Don’t wait until everything is just right to build the life that you want. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what? Get started now. With each small step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident, and more and more successful.”
As Mr. Hansen points out, we often don’t pursue our authentic desires because of perceived obstacles and less than perfect conditions- we tell ourselves that we’re too busy, too overwhelmed, too short on funds, not smart enough, not creative enough, not motivated enough, etc., etc. This sets a spiral of negative thoughts and inaction in motion, and our authentic desires go unrealized.
I have personal experience with this phenomenon. It took me years to start my book, The Weight Loss Surgery Coping Companion, because I told myself that I was too busy, too tired, and surely unable to simultaneously write a book and take care of a toddler. Then one day when my daughter was taking a nap, I had the “So what?” moment mentioned by Mr. Hansen. I sat down at the kitchen table and wrote the first paragraph of my book. It was that simple. Then I wrote another, and another, and another, and as the quote says, I grew stronger, more skilled, and more confident with each one. When I finished writing that first day, I recall thinking, “Why didn’t I start this a long time ago? This wasn’t nearly as hard as I’d built it up to be!” I just needed to START.
Today I encourage you to identify one of your authentic desires (e.g., writing a book, learning a language, starting your own business, learning an instrument, changing careers, adopting an exercise practice) and commit yourself to taking one small step towards its realization this week. Brainstorm the title of your book, order a Rosetta Stone language program, arrange to speak with someone who has started his or her own business, research local music teachers, make an appointment with a career counselor, exercise for just five minutes. Putting aside negative thoughts and just starting the process is the key. From there, you will become stronger, more skilled, more confident, and ultimately more successful. I hope that you will accept this challenge- a richer life awaits you!
Please feel free to write to me about your experience – I would love to hear from you.